“Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.”

“Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.”

“All suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction.” 

Dalai Lama XIV

an enigma question started to haunt me as if i’m the last woman standing and is usually posted by (married) men, rarely by married women:

– are you married?
– no
– why?
– i’m waiting to turn 60

i was on a dinner recently where a guy (over 40, married with children) hold me a lecture for an hour in front of everyone present about how i need to give birth to a child till i’m 42. otherwise i might regret it when i’m 50. then he went on explaining how not having a partner is not the issue cause ‘research has found‘ that one parent is enough to raise a child. instead of being in a mine field of potential embarrassment i genuinely laughed at his odysseus monologue cause this was one of those great monthy payton life situations. when he finished his presentation about my reproductive potential i kindly asked him to provide me with phone numbers of some of his married friends. why? he asked. well since i’ll be having a child and raising it by myself, the obligation and responsibility of a future mother is to choose the best sperm there is. ain’t it?

till next post on ray’s singularity,  few links:
– how to for dummies
– short history of marriage: 1 or 2